@FinalGirl They're basically just looking for any excuse to disqualify us from whatever it is we're doing that violates their idea of "normal"/safe/acceptable/etc.
That kind of thinking, in my experience, heavily prioritizes the comfort of the speaker over the life-quality of the subject.
...which I think closely parallels what you're saying here about centering privilege / power / whiteness, but I may not be explaining myself very well so please ignore if it doesn't land in a positive way. 😵💫
I can see it as... well, yet more language appropriated by the Right for their own ends. As with pretty much all of the examples I can think of, there's (1) a reasonable, positive way of using it, and then there's (2) the cudgel they've turned it into.
Looking at #1, I'd say yes I was "socialized male" in the sense that society tried to impose male habits of behavior/thinking upon me -- using techniques honed to be effective on children who found self-maleness appealing. In my case, I absolutely did not -- so the carrots were not tempting, and the sticks missed their mark. They rewarded and punished some imaginary version of me that never existed in reality.
What happens with #2, of course, is what always happens when authoritarian essentialism and binarism (black & white thinking) are applied to any nuanced idea -- in this case: whatever you were taught to be, that's what you are and will always be -- as a non-negotiable requirement, not an observation of reality. Rejecting it is a form of misbehavior which must be punished.
(I could go on about appropriated language, but maybe that's a given understanding in this context.)
@SteveInVentura @dsacer @peterbrown@mastodon.scot As with everything else he does, it's not at all about the good of the country and always about what he can grift from doing it.
@kity There should be more choices for "curated by someone else" streams -- but I've found I usually enjoy Radio Paradise, for example, and I'd bet there are others (which I haven't had the ear-time to explore).
I think maybe I've always used music to help with my emotional regulation.
I've been realizing lately that I've always been a bit of a storm inside, pretty much all the time, but was trained from an early age never to talk about it or show it -- so I often didn't know "how I feel", but I also knew that music could make me feel better sometimes.
...and maybe that's part of why I seem to be having more trouble with it lately -- because there are logistical issues here that make it difficult to listen to music, so I don't do it nearly as much as I used to.
RE: https://bookstodon.com/@TheNovemberMan/116578793743396581
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The waiting's over, the moment has come
to kill the fire, and turn to the sun.
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-- Dan Fogelberg (he was protesting nuclear power, but so much of that song could also apply to fossil energy)
In order to go viral on Mastodon, your post should include at least one cat and some criticism of AI. So here is Binah disliking large language models.
@glitzersachen @robpike "Forced labor" is definitely where the billionaires are moving this whole thing. -.-
If you're in Athens, we have some things to talk about ;-)
Some musicians I think are still in Athens and wish I was in touch with:
I could spin off into a Certified Quasi-Elder Ramble™ on any of that stuff... some of it has gender angles, too.
@splendorr "LiveJournal... now that's a name I haven't heard in a very long time..." [/Obi-Wan voice]
Short version: I was in two bands in Athens GA in the early 90s, and spent an enormous amount of energy on both of them (especially the first one, although the second one was actually better musically). The first one dissolved due to interpersonal frictions, after I had already sunk $k I didn't have into various pieces of equipment; the second one dissolved due largely, I guess, to the band's main creative force having an alcohol problem.
I still have hours and hours of recordings (practive, live, and self-produced studio) from the first band, and a rehearsal recording from the second one which makes me wish we could have properly recorded some of the material.
Although the first band did five or six gigs, we never got any revenue from it.
(My keyboard time is about to end, but there's some gender-related stuff I'll try to come back to -- topics include: getting married in the hope that that would make me feel better, and the "no girls" policy the leader of the second band wanted to have...)