Idea that's been kicking around for a while and I've mentioned here or there. But I think I'm gonna start putting it into practice.

I think it's ridiculous that we identify our sexuality by reference to our gender. Why don't we just say what we are attracted to? If we need latin-esque words for it, why not androphillic or androsexual (lover of men), gynophilic/gynosexual (lover of women), enbyphillic/enbysexual (lover of enbies), etc.

@shoutcacophony@anticapitalist.party I'll add a bit of history to this if you don't mind. Person-first language originated in the 80s. We still have problems today with so-called experts talking about autistic people like we aren't human, saying we are more like chimpanzees or robots than humans, etc. In the 80s it was way worse and way more common.

Does anyone have contact info for sanity? I know it's not good to keep trying to get a hold of someone after they block you, but it's really important that I connect with them this week.

Thanks.

@viciousviscosity@cybre.space A lot of weeks and months.

Every change starts as being for a day, for a week, for a month. Every change involves a lot of backsliding, falling off the wagon, etc. But if you/they keep trying, then eventually you get enough days/months/weeks in a row to say that this is your new normal and the occasional backslide is an aberration.

So you decide you want to be more patient. You work on it hard for a day, for two, the third day you can't manage it.

Today I learned that Freddie Mercury recorded 'The Show Must Go On' while *so drunk/drugged he couldn't walk*

And the perfection of that just blows me away.

Morning all.

Fighting with final clean up and shit on #SaferSexBook . If I don't screw anything up, it'll be available for pre-order by Sunday.

Then I get to relax and not worry about deadlines for six months or so. If all goes well #PolyamNKink will be out in about 18 months. God knows on my next fiction novel, but hopefully in the next year or two.

#amwriting

Sometime in the past 6 months I decided I was done trying to market my books.

I just didn't/don't have the time/spoons/energy to market effectively and trying to do so was adding stress I didn't need.

Well, I'm releasing my new book next Thursday. And I'm low-key freaking out because I haven't sent out review copies or tried to line up a blog tour or, well, anything *and I only have seven days left!!!!!*

Except I'm not doing those things. So... yeah...